Media character Eboni Okay. Williams, who deliberately selected single Black motherhood, just isn’t a fan of the connotation society tries to connect to the time period “child mama.” Throughout an look on Danielle Cadet’s “Pregnant Pause” podcast, theGrio alum particularly cited an alternate between Cardi B and her ex-husband, Offset, for example.
“When Cardi B was going by means of a separation and divorce together with her estranged husband Offset…essentially the most visceral, violent type of derogatory factor he may name her and consult with her [as, he said] ‘I gained. I made a child mama out of you,’” Williams stated, recalling the previous couple’s social media exchanges. “Of all of the issues…that is 2025, we received loads of issues we could possibly be calling of us.”
“That was essentially the most horrific undermining of her success, her standing and her societal worth, and he knew it and all people that heard it in that second knew it. That’s simply how weaponizing the time period child mama and single black mama might be,” she added.
Williams is a part of a rising variety of ladies who’ve redefined what it means to be a “single mom,” by means of their intentional and deliberate pursuit of motherhood with no accomplice. Williams, who conceived her daughter Liberty Alexandria by means of IVF remedies and the assistance of two donors.
“On the tender age of 40 years previous, I’ve determined to embark on a really private, very thrilling, but additionally, [a] very apparently scorching button journey, and that’s to develop into a single mother by alternative.” she stated in an episode of “Selecting Motherhood.”
An announcement, she stated, sparked very “spirited” discussions on social media on the time.
“I’ve wished to pursue the one motherhood by alternative journey for the previous two years, and I’m so blessed to be right here now. However I’m additionally not deft to how terribly stigmatized it nonetheless is,” Williams instructed Individuals journal. “My mom Gloria raised me all on my own, and did so in an period and at a time the place being a single mom on this nation — particularly a Black single mom — was some of the disgraceful issues you could possibly do. And within the span of a technology, that’s shifted to the place ladies like me are usually not simply embracing it, but additionally selecting it.”
Having documented her journey on social media and with shops like theGrio, Williams felt it was necessary for her to share her story, particularly in at the moment’s political local weather.
“Let’s get to the psychology…the emotional affect, of standing up in Trump’s America…God’s America, however beneath the dictatorship of this factor, and say, ‘I’m gonna elevate my hand and I’m gonna be a Black single mom and I’m gonna stand in it. I’m not gonna allow you to disgrace me. I’m not gonna allow you to attempt to dehumanize me,” she famous. ”As a result of I don’t symbolize a poverty story. I don’t symbolize a narrative of remorse, or worst circumstances. This was my first alternative. This was not Plan B or C. Liberty and her conception was my plan A. This was my most popular option to navigate motherhood for my little one and for me.”
