Amber Desiree “AD” Smith and Clayton “Clay” Gravesande have turn into arguably probably the most talked about couple to come back out of “Love is Blind” season 6, a matchmaking present that debuted on Netflix on Valentine’s Day. Out of 30 singles who walked into the pods on the lookout for love, 5 {couples} ended up engaged. Nonetheless, from the get-go, followers weren’t solely on board with “All Day” and “Oh Clay” — regardless of their loopy chemistry.
What had the potential to be a fairy story romance morphed into one thing very completely different as the brilliant crimson flags started piling up. Whereas some followers consider AD had turned a blind eye to considerations, the previous NFL cheerleader put these rumors to relaxation in a latest interview with US Weekly, when she unequivocally flat-out mentioned, “Clay was a strolling crimson flag.”
“I imply, from the second I met him, it was crimson flag! Crimson flag! However initially, when he wished to know concerning the bodily and what I regarded like, that was very telling and an enormous crimson flag,” she advised US within the interview.
Now that AD and the previous school observe star have reportedly put the concept of marriage on maintain — based on public information in Mecklenburg County, North Carolina — we’re looking at what’s getting viewers right into a tizzy over the couple. As for the burning query did Clay actually cook dinner a bottle of Gatorade within the microwave? We don’t have a solution on that one but.
1. AD tells Clay she’s “freezing,” and he utterly dismisses her — regardless of the actual fact he’s carrying a sweater.
It’s one of the vital anticipated moments each season — when the {couples} meet one another’s households for the primary time. AD and Clay meet with Clay’s mom for brunch. The 33-year-old expresses to her fiancé that she’s chilly.
“It’s so chilly, I’m freezing,” she mentioned.
“Are you freezing? Ooh, yeah,” Clay, who’s carrying a knitted sweater, responds.
With out giving it a second thought, Clay’s mom sweeps in to supply AD the scarf off her neck. It’s a gesture AD enormously appreciated as she shortly wrapped the scarf round her physique.
@rickeybr Havent seen anybody put up about this but so wished to share! Watch mamas scarf all through this scene-another instance of LIB enhancing footage for agendas? Particularly with the reverese footage at one level. Curious how this dialog really went- #shawlgate (excuse my child screeching midway by means of 😂) #loveisblind #loveisblindnetflix #loveisblindseason6 #clayandad #netflixseries #netflix ♬ unique sound – Breeana
Not providing a jacket when your sweetie is chilly doesn’t all the time spell doom. In spite of everything, one girl’s crimson flag could also be one other one’s non-issue. However we are able to all agree {that a} man letting his mother step in to maintain his associate heat is no less than crimson flag territory, as one astute fan identified:
“AD was chilly and Clay momma gave her a shawl… the person actually had a sweater on!!! ARE YOU MAD??”
2. Clay shows his dangerous desk manners
“Love Is Blind” despatched all of the newly engaged lovebirds to the Dominican Republic, the place they have been handled to luxurious lodging at a five-star, adults-only resort in Punta Cana. The {couples} relaxed on the seaside, indulged in romantic connoisseur meals, and … slurped soup?
Whereas not a deal-breaker, AD was visibly aggravated over Clay’s consuming habits when he bypassed all utensils and went straight for the bowl, slurping loudly.
Now why is Clay consuming soup like this?! AD’s response is sending me 😂😂😂 #LoveIsBlindS6 #LoveIsBlind6 #LoveIsBlind pic.twitter.com/CLx56vd1iR
— Steph R. 🦋🌻 (@stephdizzle11) February 21, 2024
The couple fell in love whereas ensconced in soundproof pods, by no means seeing one another as soon as, based on the present’s guidelines. “AD did NOT get to listen to how Clay slurped his soup in these pods,” joked one fan.
3. AD was not a fan of Clay pre-bussing the desk.
Whereas somebody clearing a desk – irrespective of how awkwardly — is just not a crimson flag to many potential companions, when taken along side slurping, we are able to perceive the appears to be like AD was capturing Clay.
One social media person couldn’t assist however discover AD’s eyes getting broad: “I simply know AD thinks Clay is off as a result of her eyes inform all of it.”
I simply know AD thinks Clay is off as a result of her eyes inform all of it 😂 #LoveIsBlindS6 #LoveIsBlind6 #LoveIsBlind pic.twitter.com/wlIiPynmg7
— Steph R. 🦋🌻 (@stephdizzle11) February 21, 2024
Not all viewers have been postpone by Clay’s actions, nonetheless. Many felt it was an indication that Clay, who works in tech gross sales and owns a jet ski rental firm, might have additionally labored within the service business.
“OK, like, I do know enhancing was making the second appear so awkward, however when Clay began stacking the plates, I believed it was the largest inexperienced flag. As somebody who’s labored as a waitress for therefore a few years, seeing that simply made me really feel like he’s somebody who would respect folks within the service business and deal with them properly. I don’t know why AD regarded so weirded out, however idk it made me like Clay a lot extra,” shared a Reddit person.
Whether or not you discover Clay pre-bussing his tables to be a crimson or inexperienced flag, AD appeared to dislike it, and for that motive, she ought to have thought of whether or not Clay was somebody she might spend her future with.
4. Clay appears too targeted on bodily attraction. Is love actually blind?
Clay has gotten backlash over his unrealistic expectations on how his spouse’s physique ought to look, going as far as to inform AD she wanted to maintain her physique match after giving delivery earlier than even assembly her face-to-face. His hyper-focus on girls’s appears to be like has brought about main controversy among the many present’s followers.
“I simply really feel like my worst concern is, like, we fall in love, we’ve this lovely connection, we do the reveal, and it’s like, ‘Oh wow, we by no means actually talked concerning the bodily,” he advised AD throughout a dialog within the pods. “That’s necessary to me.”
so love…isn’t so blind for Clay
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Throughout her first assembly with Clay out of the pods, AD caught quite a lot of flak for reverting to her previous habits. Upon getting into the experiment, the true property agent voiced that she wished to discover a man who beloved her thoughts and was not targeted on her physique. She additionally expressed that she tends to fall into her previous habits with males. It took no time for AD to turn into Clay’s present pony, as she pranced for her new fiancé in order that he might get a transparent view of her bottom.
“Bro, she was mad he requested about appears to be like, then she was feeding into it,” mentioned a fan on TikTok.
Viewers additionally referred to as out Clay for not understanding how exhausting it’s for some girls to take care of an ideal determine. He upset many ladies when he advised his wife-to-be that he wouldn’t let her get out of practice. As a substitute, if he observed she was letting herself go, he would inform her to “get in that f—king gymnasium.”
With a lot emphasis on her physique and AD’s lack of ability to let go of her personal poisonous traits, it’s evident that this relationship might not be good for her.
5. He’s simply not that into you.
After the proposal, Clay’s preoccupation with, properly, himself and his fixation on AD’s bodily attributes continues to irk followers.
One commentator speaks for a lot of when she posted on X, “Clay continues to speak about himself and what AD does for him and the way she validates him and blah blah blah. He has but to say something non-physical about her loveliness as an individual. And the unhappy half is, I don’t suppose she notices.”
However a more in-depth look reveals AD is unquestionably feeling the disconnect, as evidenced by her lower than enthusiastic response when Clay boasted about “exhibiting off” his new fiancée (maybe she was nonetheless in shock from the slurping). It’s not simply Clay; the opposite forged members’ objectifying remarks and preoccupation with AD’s physique — and butt — are giving us the ick.
6. Clay must test his perspective.
Clay garnered various side-eyes when a dialog about his busy work schedule changed into him snapping at AD in entrance of his mom and sister.
As AD defined her considerations along with her future husband working extreme hours to the purpose he doesn’t come dwelling some nights, Clay expressed that him working is a non-negotiable.
“Work is just not the issue. Work has by no means been the issue, ever,” confessed AD.
“Then what’s the issue,” Clay mentioned sternly, even taking his mom unexpectedly.
The busy entrepreneur famous that he was very annoyed by the dialog and felt his fiancée didn’t totally perceive his obligations. Regardless of not elevating his voice, many viewers weren’t feeling his perspective.
“Him having an hour drive within the morning is just not motive sufficient to not come dwelling at night time. Particularly if you simply bought married,” mentioned one “Love Is Blind” fan on TikTok.
Clay additionally confirmed a little bit of aggression when he took challenge with AD’s reference to one other present participant, Matthew. The crimson flags are fluorescent at this level.
7. Clay’s father cheated on his mom, so Clay believes infidelity is regular.
Nobody is ideal, you’ll most likely have just a few crimson flags with any man, however if you begin having 5, six, seven, eight, it is likely to be time to take inventory of the place the connection goes.
After bonding within the Dominican Republic and returning to their new shared house, it was courageous of Clay to open up concerning the years of infidelity in his mother or father’s marriage, and it was admirable of AD to point out him assist. That mentioned, rising up considering of infidelity as “a daily factor” could possibly be exhausting to beat even when the couple goes by means of remedy collectively, as Clay instructed.
In accordance with him, his father cheated on his mom inside seven years of them getting married.
“Infidelity was a factor, and my dad would take me with him to a few of his infidelity journeys,” Clay revealed. “I didn’t inform my mother. To this present day, she doesn’t know a number of the journeys I went on. I’m all the time having the concern of, like, can I simply be with one individual?”
Clay expressed that his father objectified girls, going so far as to warn AD that he might attempt to hit on her.
“Undoubtedly perceive Clay a bit extra after this. Perception into his childhood was actual, and the questionable ‘position fashions’ he regarded as much as. Hope he wins the battle over them demons and don’t let AD down,” wrote one fan on X.
Whereas his vulnerability elicited sympathy from some, different followers issued warnings to AD.
“AD, please run. However not solely does he must heal and develop up, Clay is for the streets. He’s actually telling you he IS about to allow you to down, and you’re gonna should be comfortable with that!” urged one other fan.
8. Clay has poisonous views on Black love.
It’s exhausting to not discover that Clay’s perspective on Black relationships is just not the healthiest because of the lack of position fashions in his youth, as he appears to suppose dishonest is a pure factor.
“I’ve by no means seen a Black relationship the place the person is devoted. And I’m not even blaming my dad. I’m speaking about Black males which were in my life,” he advised AD, including, “Even, like, celebrities, just like the Will Smiths… the Diddys and stuff like that. These are Black males that I like to have a look at, and it’s such as you all the time hear they produce other girls.”
With out fail, AD continues to disregard the entire crimson flags Clay is throwing at her. He basically tells her that he believes he’ll cheat on her sometime and she or he accepts it.
9. Mom is aware of finest, and she or he’s not notably keen on Clay.
When your mother dispenses exhausting truths and somber recommendation after assembly your beau, it’s an enormous crimson flag.
Clay might have left a bitter style in AD’s mom’s mouth when he arrived late to their preliminary meetup, however AD complaining about his insane schedule and showing to lose herself in a person she barely is aware of was a significant concern.
Whereas AD’s mother predicted the connection might work, she had some actual speak for her daughter: “Give it your all. If, for some unusual motive, he doesn’t suppose that your all is sufficient for him, then that’s not your man.”
She additionally had just a few phrases for Clay, urging him to not use his dad and mom’ relationship issues as an excuse.
“A few of the stuff that we undergo as your mom and father, that’s our stuff. Simply saying, ‘I’m going mess this up. I’m going to do one thing.’ That’s self-sabotage as a result of it’s a must to kind and work out your personal stuff for your self,” AD advised him.
In a dialog along with her daughter, her mom continued, “The unhappy half is what he’s anxious about is just not even his. Like you’ll be able to’t take in your dad and mom’ stuff. You possibly can’t tackle our failures.”
Followers of the present are right here for her mother’s no-nonsense recommendation. “I’m glad AD’s mother is clocking this tea with Clay. He got here in with rehearsed traces, however she’s seeing proper by means of the bs. Cease making an attempt to self-sabotage and be a person,” posted one other X person.
One other fan chimed in with related sentiments, saying, “She clocked that crutch that Clay is utilizing speaking about how his dad and mom’ relationship is affecting his ideas on marriage. You must kind these ideas for your self. It’s self-sabotage”
10. He focuses on being iconic.
There are numerous causes to have fun new love and the prospect of a protracted life collectively, however toasting to being “iconic” might sign shallow priorities. When Clay boasts, “We’re gonna be a fantastic couple. Iconic,” followers have been fast to name him out.
Ohh AD and Clay… this isn’t gonna age properly 😅 #loveisblind #LoveIsBlindS6 pic.twitter.com/I2XpJ5c4YU
— Tvshittalking (@tvshittalking) February 22, 2024
